The question to ask before you say yes
Coming back in January after the break can feel like being thrown straight back into the deep end.
Targets reset, expectations stay high, and somehow we’re meant to be back at full speed straight away.
Last week in Female Lawyers’ Club, we hosted a brilliant masterclass with Vikki Pratley, former lawyer and founder of the StressLess Academy, on avoiding burnout while still staying ambitious and performing at a high level.
Why Selfies are No Longer My Friend
At a recent Female Lawyers’ Club drinks in London, we watched two women in a bar taking selfies - full-on, exaggerated poses, utterly unbothered by anyone around them. We admired them. They gave zero shits. And why should they? They looked fabulous.
I’ve never quite felt that level of ease with how I look - especially not in the world of law.
How to Stop Beating Yourself Up
I recently went for dinner at Evelyn’s in Manchester with a lovely friend who I used to work with. Between bites of charred cauliflower, deep-fried courgettes, teriyaki mushrooms, and chips (we ordered all the food and it was glorious), we caught up on life, careers, and everything in between.
At one point, my friend asked me something that really stuck with me. She said:
“How do I stop beating myself up when I get things wrong?”
Is the Confidence Gap Holding You Back?
I recently hosted a panel discussion in celebration of International Women’s Day, interviewing Sarah Goulbourne, Co-Founder of Gunnercooke and Norah Durrant, Founder of Norah Durrant Recruitment and Female Counsel. One of the topics which came up was how lack of confidence can hold women back in their legal careers. Part of the discussion involved recognising that this is often a gender issue: men do not seem to struggle to the same degree with advocating for themselves or being confident in their abilities.
Becoming a Likeable Badass in Law
I’ve recently read the book “Likeable Badass” by Alison Fragale and it was filled with great advice for women professionals. It’s about how you can behave in work to get you ahead whilst maintaining your likeability (in other words, how to walk the tightrope that men don’t have to walk).
I first became aware of this tightrope when I read “Lean In” by Sheryl Sandberg years ago. Sandberg talks about how when women behave assertively at work, they are perceived as less likeable which, in turn, affects their prospects of success in negotiations and their career more generally. When men behave assertively, it does not affect their likeability. The same goes for success: success and likeability are positively correlated for men but negatively correlated for women. Studies have shown that when a woman is successful, people of both genders like her less.