Becoming a Likeable Badass in Law
I’ve recently read the book “Likeable Badass” by Alison Fragale and it was filled with great advice for women professionals. It’s about how you can behave in work to get you ahead whilst maintaining your likeability (in other words, how to walk the tightrope that men don’t have to walk).
I first became aware of this tightrope when I read “Lean In” by Sheryl Sandberg years ago. Sandberg talks about how when women behave assertively at work, they are perceived as less likeable which, in turn, affects their prospects of success in negotiations and their career more generally. When men behave assertively, it does not affect their likeability. The same goes for success: success and likeability are positively correlated for men but negatively correlated for women. Studies have shown that when a woman is successful, people of both genders like her less.
Five Tips for Boosting Charisma and Winning in Your Career
We can all think of charismatic people, those overflowing with charm who make everyone around them feel good. I’d always thought that those people just had a certain gene and were lucky to have been born with this magical power.
It turns out that I was wrong. The good news is that everyone has the ability to be charismatic. Charisma is a skill, like public speaking and driving a car. With practice, we can increase our charisma and, in so doing, obtain significantly better results in many key areas of our role, such as client meetings, advocacy, networking and team building. In so doing, we’ll increase our overall effectiveness as lawyers and attain higher levels of success.