How to Stop Beating Yourself Up
I recently went for dinner at Evelyn’s in Manchester with a lovely friend who I used to work with. Between bites of charred cauliflower, deep-fried courgettes, teriyaki mushrooms, and chips (we ordered all the food and it was glorious), we caught up on life, careers, and everything in between.
At one point, my friend asked me something that really stuck with me. She said:
“How do I stop beating myself up when I get things wrong?”
Codex Vitae
If you’re anything like me, your legal career has been full of ‘aha’ moments. Those insights that shift your mindset, challenge the way you’ve been working, and ultimately help you grow into the lawyer – and person – you want to be. But here’s the problem: unless you capture them, they slip away.
Enter the Codex Vitae.
Embracing the Power of Awkwardness in your Legal Career
Have you ever stood at a networking event, clutching your drink like a lifeline, hovering near a conversation circle but never quite making it in? I have. More than once. I never seem to master the art of smoothly sidling up to a group and seamlessly joining their chat. Instead, I’ve loitered awkwardly, waiting for the perfect moment to jump in—only to find myself retreating, red-faced and inwardly cringing.
Why Women Lawyers Must Negotiate their Pay Differently from Men
It’s no secret that the gender pay gap persists in the legal profession. Women lawyers, on average, earn less than their male counterparts—despite often having the same experience and expertise. But what’s less talked about is why this happens and, more importantly, what women can do about it.
Why Female Lawyers Should Buy Themselves the F*ing Lilies
There’s something powerful about finally deciding to put yourself first. If you’re a female lawyer juggling client demands, endless emails, and the expectation to ‘just get on with it,’ you probably don’t take much time for yourself. The book “Buy Yourself the F*ing Lilies” by Tara Schuster is a wake-up call: self-care isn’t selfish—it’s essential.