Embracing the Power of Awkwardness in your Legal Career
Have you ever stood at a networking event, clutching your drink like a lifeline, hovering near a conversation circle but never quite making it in? I have. More than once. I never seem to master the art of smoothly sidling up to a group and seamlessly joining their chat. Instead, I’ve loitered awkwardly, waiting for the perfect moment to jump in—only to find myself retreating, red-faced and inwardly cringing.
What I Wish I’d Known When I Started Out
A couple of weeks ago, I asked this question on LinkedIn:
“If you’re a senior female lawyer, can you let me know:
What is the one thing you wished you’d known earlier in your career?”
I received replies from many women across various roles and firms, and I am enormously grateful to those of you who took the time to reply. I have kept the replies anonymous as promised.
I have added my own thoughts at the end of the blog.
How I got networking all wrong
I was usually the last to arrive, having left work late trying to finish an urgent piece of work, and then struggling to figure out where on earth the event was being held. Speed-walking round the block a few times before realising I’d walked past the correct entrance 10 minutes ago.
I’d turn up, grab a drink from the nearest waiter and hope for the best, awkwardly crowbarring my way into conversations with the social finesse of a toddler on their first day at play group.
I’d grab one of the free snacks as I’d not eaten and didn’t want to drink wine on an empty stomach, only to worry I’d accidentally spit out the food in the face of the person I was chatting to.
I had no idea who anyone was.
Honestly, it’s a miracle I have a career at all.
Lonely… Me?
I have a suggestion: let’s have a regular community chat. By video so we can see each other (although not as good as in person, granted). We can check in on each other, say hi, share good news, vent about terrible clients, recommend books, films, whatever comes up… It can be a drop-in session and if you can make it, great; if you can’t, absolutely fine. Come late or leave early - you’ll be welcome any time.