How to Never feel Nervous Again
You can never guarantee what will happen, or what you will achieve in a particular situation. If you tether your confidence on a particular outcome, you will always feel uneasy as you’ll forever be worrying about the threat of failure.
You can however guarantee to make your best effort. Therefore, if you choose the basis of best effort, you will have full control. You will see life as full of opportunities and you can feel confident knowing that you can deal with the consequences. Just like that…poofff! The fear is gone!
Public Speaking, anyone?
I’d planned as well as I could. This included writing out a full script in case I lost my way.
I’m still scarred from the horror of watching a colleague completely freeze in front of a boardroom full of clients and colleagues years ago, as she completely lost her way during her talk and ended up silently walking out midway through.
It was the stuff of nightmares. I was on immediately after her, so couldn’t even check if she was ok. Ever since that day, I’ve made fairly detailed notes before any presentation so, if all else fails, I can at least read the notes and muddle through. Some people can pitch up and just talk really well, with no prompts. I’m not one of those people. And that’s ok.
The Dinner Party
Picture the scene.
You’re in your favourite restaurant with your best friend.
It’s December 2024 and you’re celebrating the fact that you’ve FINALLY achieved your dream goal! As this is a really special occasion, you’re pushing the boat out and having three courses plus your favourite bottle; no expense spared.
The question for you today is – what will you be celebrating?
Do you have a goal for the year that will warrant a slap-up meal celebration?
Or are you going to carry on as you are and hope for the best?
If you don’t know what you want to celebrate by the end of the year, then how will it ever happen?